Puberty! Dear Parents, this period is awe-inspiring to some of you. Intensity, conflicts, quarrels, discussions, reflections. Definitely some tips would be useful for you to be able to manage situations.
1. Dear parents, first make sure you are well with yourself.
Spend time with yourself doing things that relax you, they fill you up and make you feel beautiful. Recent research has shown that parents who make time for themselves become more effective. Parents who are exhausted from work, psychologically depressed can not make the right decisions, they are irritated by the slightest thing and lose their control and patience very easily.
2. Do not try to "cover" your mistakes as parents.
We all do mistakes. No one can reach perfection. So apologize for any mistakes or omissions you feel you have made. Research has shown that parents who admit and apologize for their mistakes help their children. Specifically, children learn to handle stress better, stressful and depressive situations.
3. Get rid of stress as much as you can
Stress is an unpleasant feeling for each of us. It is difficult for all of us to manage and get rid of it easily. In cases where you can not handle it do not hesitate to seek medical help or psychological support.
4. Do not go through worries and difficult situations alone
When you are anxious and worried it is very important to share your feelings with another person. Discuss your concerns with a close family friend, with your partner, with your sister or brother. Sharing thoughts, your concerns, to share situations that trouble you with other people neutralize your stress and help you make better decisions and solve problems more easily.
5. Beautiful, Constructive cooperation and communication between the two parents is the golden rule
Research shows that happy marriage is associated with happy children. It is a great advantage for teenagers when parents have an excellent communication with each other and share their worries and concerns and make decisions together.. In case you are single if possible, make your effort to have a good relationship with the father / mother of your child but also your child to have a beautiful relationship with both parents.
6. True apology is important to teach our children
Mistakes are human. We all do mistakes. Nobody is perfect. The most important thing is to acknowledge and apologize by saying a real apology and of course to seek not to repeat them.. So teach your children to apologize when they should, following the same tactics, of course.
7. Remember that you are the model – template for your kids
Our children are watching! They watch us in our good and bad moments, follow our habits. We should expect that they will most likely imitate our behaviors. They see us when we eat and watch TV, they see us when we work on the computer at dinner time, they see us what we are used to eating. They see our reactions to various situations, oversee the value we place on friendship, in our relationships with people, our patience, self control. So do not underestimate your ability to influence your children's development, their learning and behavior.
8. Anxious parents do crazy things!
Anxiety and worry are unpleasant feelings when they pool in our hearts. It is important to identify the source of the concern and with the help of talking to a good friend, με το σύζυγό σας να προσπαθήσετε να την εξολοθρεύσετε. Όταν σας πλημμυρίζει άγχος και ανησυχία το μόνο που πετυχαίνετε είναι να δηλητηριάζετε τη σκέψη και τις αποφάσεις σας. You must try the same for our children. When you feel that your children are anxious, irritated, react spasmodically then calmly and patiently it would be good to sit next to them and help them get rid of this unpleasant feeling.
9. Avoid making important decisions when you are angry, anxious and frustrated.
When you are overwhelmed by negative emotions such as anger, the stress, the frustration take deep breaths, discuss your concerns with your partner or a good friend. Let time pass, calm down and then the decision you will make on an issue that concerns you will definitely be more effective.
10. Do not lie to your children
Μια ειλικρινής σχέση με το παιδί σας τηρώντας τις υποσχέσεις που εσείς θέτετε είναι σημαντική για να κατακτήσετε την εμπιστοσύνη τους. Όταν τα παιδιά αισθάνονται εμπιστοσύνη στο πρόσωπό σας, learn to show more respect, to obey and cooperate more easily.
11. Καθιερώστε αποτελεσματικούς κανόνες, rewards and consequences
Καθιερώστε κανόνες στην καθημερινότητα της ανατροφής του παιδιού σας. Κανόνες που αφορούν την ώρα του φαγητού, of sleep, of fun, της μελέτης καθώς και σε άλλα θέματα της καθημερινότητας. Ευγενικές χειρονομίες, good behavior, obedience, good school performance, προσφορά βοήθειας στις δουλειές του σπιτιού μπορείτε να τα συνδέσετε με επιβραβεύσεις. Η επιβράβευσή προς τα παιδιά αντικατοπτρίζει σεβασμό στις πράξεις τους και τονώνει το είναι και την αυτοπεποίθησή τους. Βέβαια δεν πρέπει να λείπουν και οι συνέπειες των «κακών» συμπεριφορών. Συνέπειες που δεν πρέπει σε καμία περίπτωση να σχετίζονται με σωματική βία. Ένα πλάνο που κυμαίνεται στο πλαίσιο των κανόνων και της τάξης δίνει έναυσμα στα παιδιά να οργανώνουν τις ενέργειες του και να προβληματίζονται για τις πράξεις τους.