As adolescence is a developmental phase with many changes in the biosomatic, mental and emotional level, It is expected that there will be changes in the behavior of adolescents. These changes have, usually, to do by claiming more privileges, challenging parents and the rules they impose on them and the intensified effort for autonomy.
It is logical that adolescents' growing demands lead to tensions and make parents wonder if their child's behavior has to do with their age or reflects a described difficulty of the child who needs special help..
It would be good, Well, Parents should consult a specialist when their child exhibits the following behaviors:
- He is very angry and irritable (e.g. he often and easily loses his temper, is sensitive and easily annoyed by others, he is often angry and full of bitterness for others)
- He is vindictive and uncompromising (e.g. often quarrels with adults and people in power, actively defies and refuses to comply with the rules imposed on him, deliberately annoys other people, blames others for his own mistakes or his own bad behavior)
- Vindictiveness (e.g. often gets angry with others or is vindictive)
One might think that the above behaviors are easily incorporated by many people into a physiological context that does not raise concerns.. The classification of the above behaviors and their characterization as extreme or expected should be guided by the frequency, the intensity and duration of these behaviors and take into account whether these behaviors make the child to malfunctions in his family and school environment as well as in the company of his interlocutors.
Other teen behaviors that parents should be concerned about, is:
- The lack of remorse: when their child does not feel bad after he has done something wrong and is not interested in the consequences of his actions (e.g. when he has hit someone, but does not feel remorse or interest in expulsion from school)
- The lack of empathy: when he defies other people's feelings and is not interested in the impact his / her actions will have on other people
- Indifference to his / her performance: when he / she is not interested in his / her poor performance in school or other important activities (e.g. not to care if he stays in the same class)
- Incomplete expression of his / her emotional state: when he does not express how he feels or does not express honestly about how he feels (e.g. says he is not angry, but his expressions and style contrast with it) or when he expresses how he feels in order to gain something (e.g. becomes manipulative).
Regardless, Nevertheless, from whether the above behaviors have such duration and intensity that they refer to described disorders, It would be good to always have in mind how we can frame each child as best as possible in order to boost his self-esteem and help him build good and functional relationships with the people around him..
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