There is no parent who has never lied to their child. Whether this is about something important ("Your dog went to live in the forest and he is very happy there"), or it is an attempt to make our daily life a little easier ("If you do not eat your food, your dad will eat it "), none of us is sinless. However, even if in some cases lying seems to be the only way to protect our child from mental pain, in fact they are never properly handled. The following consequences may persuade you to tell him the truth - and the truth alone.
Vicious circle
Rarely does a lie survive on its own. In order to support it, we are usually forced to surround it with even more lies. This effort is very tedious and increases the chances of us falling into some contradiction.
The time of crisis
Children are smarter than that,what do we think. A detail that you could not remember properly or just the passage of time is enough to catch you "in the leech" and then your relationship will receive a major blow. Of course there is a way to regain his trust, but this requires time and effort.
Wrong lesson
Through this attitude you learn that some lies are permissible, which may lead him to believe that the same is true of all lies. And we all want our children to be honest with us.
Development opportunities
The truth can sometimes be painful or uncomfortable, but through the management of negative news children become stronger. Especially when they are still young, not only can they not capture the full magnitude of an unpleasant event, but also tend to seek from us the help they need. If you try to keep it closed in a "bubble", later he will be forced to deal with painful situations unprepared and much more alone than that,what now.
What to do;
Try not to resort to lies to avoid daily small problems. When you are anxious that the child is not able to manage something really big, such as the death of a loved one, prefer to talk to him gently and honestly about the subject, showing him that you are there for him and avoiding mentioning unnecessary details.
Source: imommy.gr
