Psychological abuse leaves marks on a person's behavior. Be aware of this reality and help those who need it most.
What are the effects of psychological abuse?; It is easy to see the effects of physical abuse. No one can hide a broken arm, a blackened eye, a burn, swollen lips or bruises.
However, when it comes to psychological abuse, handling, abuse and emotional violence, things are different.
You can't touch it, to see her or have an x-ray.
The effects of psychological abuse are so complex that the victim often feels unable to seek help..
How can he explain it?; How can the victim expect to be believed?, if his self-esteem and identity suffer, the innermost and most personal parts of himself;
It's not easy. And it doesn't help at all that many times there are no good systems available to which a woman or a man who is psychologically abused can resort..
Sometimes, the victim does not dare. He fears the possible consequences, especially that people will not believe it.
Psychological abuse is disastrous and crushes lives for a very specific reason: comes from people close to the victim, people the victim trusts and often even loves.
Let's look at the effects of psychological abuse on the mind and emotions.
1. Feelings of shame and guilt, from the effects of psychological abuse
The most heartbreaking and negative thing is the to start the victim blaming himself for what is happening to him.
This is very common and is related to how psychological handling looks from the outside.
We are talking about the case when others think that "The abused person allows this", the "She is OK, she lets him bully her, to hurt her and control her ”.
Be very careful not to talk like that. The abused person is in emotional turmoil and in an extremely complicated situation from which it is not so easy to escape..
It is common for the victim to feel ashamed when they think about how they found themselves in this situation.
Another thing that often happens is that the victim feels unable to react, too lonely and isolated to be able to get out of this pit without help.
However, the victim is important to remember that this is not his fault and that there is always a way out of this situation.
2. Memory loss or surreal feeling, from the effects of psychological abuse
When a person experiences high levels of anxiety, anxiety and constant pain, its structures brain associated with memory, such as the hippocampus, usually reduced in volume and connectivity.
The person makes memory errors, it cannot concentrate and cannot make decisions with a clear mind.
From the other side, it is very common to feel that the facts are not true.
It is a mechanism within which the mind distances itself from reality to depersonalize it, so that the person can think, "This is not really happening to me".
3. Emotional instability and mood swings
There are times when the victim hopes that things will change, who believes that there can be improvement and that happiness, completeness and balance are possible.
However, soon falls again into the same pit. The cancellation, anger and rage reappear, along with despair and fear.
Usually the victim experiences a whole kaleidoscope of senses and emotions. He feels he has no control over his life.
4. Psychological abuse and recurrent physical pain
The victim of psychological abuse is not physically assaulted, Nevertheless the pain he experiences sooner or later will be felt in his body.
Chronic emotional distress eventually manifests itself with characteristic symptoms such as fatigue, insomnia, the headaches, muscle and joint pain, digestive problems and recurrent infections due to the weakening of the immune system.
Undoubtedly, this is a very common occurrence of psychological abuse.
5. Feeling we have 'Run out of gas' emotionally.
Acquired feeling of weakness is another common symptom. The victim of psychological abuse finally at some point he believes he can do absolutely nothing.
He often ends up telling himself that none of what he says, does or tries to change cannot stop psychological abuse.
This reminds us again how basic it is, it is important and crucial to behave with sensitivity and warmth in people who show signs of abuse.
Never express doubts of the type: "What are you saying; Are you sure he's doing something like that or are you just melodramatic?;”.
The only thing you can do with words like this is to make the victim sink even more into despair., to remove it and enhance its sense of loneliness.
6. Suicidal thoughts
When the victim begins to tell himself that there is no way out, may begin to have suicidal thoughts. Initially, these are vague ideas, for a temporary desire.
Nevertheless, the fateful moment may come when suicide will seem like the only solution.
People close to the victim of psychological abuse must be very sensitive to all signs -in the words, in body language and behavior.
Psychological abuse leaves marks on a person's behavior.
Be aware of this reality and help those who need it most.
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