Everything changes in adolescence! The child transforms into a teenager and the parents often feel helpless and find it difficult to support and guide him. The Mental Health Consultant, Elena Bogdanou, gives valuable tips on how parents can manage this sensitive and changeable age of children
In all societies the transition from childhood to adolescence is accompanied by both physical and behavioral changes.. The mere fact that the teenager is faced with obvious changes in his body makes this transition difficult and demanding..
The former children come to face and respond to this change. Both with managing changes in their body, in their emotions, in the family but also at school. The Mental Health Consultant, Elena Bogdanou, advises us how to cope.
A key role now in their socialization, during adolescence, has their company, in which they must be made accepted and liked while trying to shape their identity. Through these processes the need for autonomy and freedom causes friction and conflict within the family environment, which in turn is called to face the change experienced by the adolescent. Just the thought that the child will pass into adolescence causes strong emotions in the parents. They are afraid that they will not be ready to help and understand their child's behavior and therefore help him in this transition.. The myths surrounding the transition to adolescence cause questions and fear in parents, who try to prepare for a period which according to legend is a difficult and uphill course. The fact remains, however, that the parents themselves have gone through adolescence. They may have a personal perception of the changes that are taking place in this period. Clearly there are changes and differences due to it diversity of the social context in which the adolescent lives and works but the central axis of change both socially and emotionally remains the same.
A Continuous Search
In other words, the search for their identity, the need for independence, the search for new experiences, the exploration of sexual identity, communication through different ways but also the distinction between right and wrong belong to the social changes that a teenager is called to face and experience. In the emotional part, we have behaviors that are possessed by intense emotional reactions. A sensitivity to his emotions but also a tendency to egocentrism. We also see intense changes in adolescent relationships which are manifested by the need to reduce the time they spend with their family. They have intense disagreements and conflicts but also see the world differently. This comes and intensifies the conflict of relations between parents and children since the changes are intense and accompanied by emotional charges which are manifested by intense outbursts or sometimes in isolation.
The transition to adolescence does not mean a bad period of relationships with the child. It simply states the need for change in the management of relationships so far. Show interest in the new world that children experience. Επιδείξτε κατανόηση αλλά και προσπάθεια να αναγνωρίσετε τις δυσκολίες που καλούνται να pass. At the same time, the understanding of the new emotions experienced by adolescents and their acceptance act as a catalyst in the adolescent-parent relationship..
Recognizing the need for personal space leaves the adolescent with the opportunity to develop his identity. The boundaries though will be a point of conflict, is a key element in this transitional period so that there is protection. At the same time, their freedom will be used. The quest for autonomy and accountability should be encouraged and rewarded. There should be room for discussion to find a common solution to communication problems and disagreements.
When you do not understand something, ask!
Do not assume or draw hasty conclusions. Η απάντησή του μπορεί να σας εκπλήξει. Τέλος η υποστήριξη δρα θετικά και βοηθά τον έφηβο. Clearly, even in cases where we see that we do not have the knowledge to help the adolescent in this transition, seeking help from a specialist will help both in processing and understanding the feelings and changes that both parties are experiencing.. Because it is not always easy to see our child grow up, to become independent and not need us so much.