Parents shout because they think that this way they can be better imposed on their child or because they do not have the patience to explain to him what he should or should not do.
But the truth is that this is an ineffective method. Study of 2013 found that harsh verbal discipline not only does not reduce adolescents' problem behaviors but may exacerbate them.
So what can parents do?;
It is fair to warn children about what will happen when they are late for bed., when they fool around instead of reading, when watching TV while not allowed. A sober warning can sometimes be more effective than voices.
Make a list of "Yes"
Sit down with your children and make a list of acceptable things to do before shouting or saying something you will regret..
Set clear rules
When setting rules, make sure they are understood and followed. Threats and whining have no effect especially if the rules are broken at your own risk.
Adjust your expectations
With the kids, Maintaining realistic expectations is key. You may have thought differently about things than they might actually be. But this is something for which children are not responsible so there is no reason to break out on them.
Recognize when your child's behavior is a reason to shout
Often your outbursts can be an outward manifestation of your own unmet needs.. Ask yourself: "Because I shouted at my children for the last three days in a row; I did not get enough sleep; In addition to my children's behavior, what else is happening to me;».The answers can be very enlightening.